I begin with a comprehensive assessment that includes an interview with the couple together and each partner separately to ensure they are ready for couples work. I also conduct an assessment of individual and couple functioning to address key relational issues and rule out psychological or physiological issues that may be a significant factor in the couple's distress. Beginning with a comprehensive understanding of the psychological, relational, and physiological factors ensures that treatment is focused on the right issues.
In the early phase of treatment, I work with the couple to quickly identify the fundamental interactional patterns and perceptions that generate the conflict and/or distress. I educate the couple on the dynamics of relationships to reduce self- and other-blame and increase compassion and understanding. I draw primarily from EFT and IBCT in my couples work.
Shifting the Negative Patterns and Re-establishing Safety: Once we have identified the communication and behavioral patterns that need to shift, we work in-session to fundamentally shift these so that couples can change how they communicate and behave outside of session as well. Most couples are able to achieve this within 6-12 sessions.
Long-term Relational Wellness:
Finally, I work with couples to develop well-established habits, routines, and communication patterns that will enable them to handle the next stressor life throws at them.
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